Finding a Friend/ Friend Ad

Now with Myspace and Facebook its like High School never ended. I have been out of High School for almost 5 years now but I am still emailed by old classmates telling me rumors about someone one we went to school with. "Oh did you know he's Gay now?" "Did you know she is a tramp and sleeps with everyone and has caught almost every std there is?" Seriously when are we all gonna grow up and stop these rumors? I was always told that things change once you get out of HS and yes, I am no longer going to school all day everyday and I have more responsibilities and bills, but the cliques are still there. People are still gossiping and I think it has gotten worse. Now there is no way to see that person when you live on the other side of the world from them so you don't know whats true and what isnt... I have noticed though that the military life is kinda like HS too with the cliques there are some trashy people, some druggies, alcoholics, preps, and several other groups, Although im not sure which group i would be classified in... I guess maybe the misfits? idk. I have dealt with so much drama here, the only thing different is that I can slap someone when I want to, which happens alot. Maybe I have anger issues idk, but when I see someone that isnt taking care of their first kid and is having another one i wanna slap them. And because we are overseas in Japan there is no one that will repremand them on this. There is no CPS although there really should be. The woman of whom I speak has an almost 2 year old whom does not eat real food he has formula still and some cookies or cereal every once in a while. And now she has just had another baby that im afraid will leave the first one in a far more difficult situation since her husband is not the father of the 1st one, and she herself always wanted a girl not a boy, and guess what they had... a Girl.

Im not saying I dont have problems of my own, for instance I gossip, not to a degree that alot of people do, but its still true I find myself spilling my guts like word vomit, telling someone something that I should have never said just because im upset. I find myself recalling that old adage about people with stones and glass houses. I also am sure that my parenting skills are somewhat lacking. I mean how many parents can say hey I raised my child perfectly I never made a mistake? Im pretty sure no one. My two almost 3 year old stays dry all day and most nights, but then there are times when she just doesnt wanna go to bed so she pee's in her bed so that I have to get her up and change her bedding and she can stay up for just a few minutes more.

I am also pretty sure im defective. Lol. I find myself not able to maintain friends here. I am friends with someone for a while then something happens and I dont wanna be screwed over by them watching their 3 kids all day 4 days a week for free and then I lose a friend. But I guess its their loss too. I never know what to say to people that I meet. Maybe I should come up with a friend ad so that people will know what I expect before hand and then we both are less dissappointed by the end result. I guess my ad would read something like this:

I am looking for a relatively sane friend, someone that I will be seeing more than just the times you need someone to babysitt for you. Someone that doesnt ask me for something everytime I see you. I am looking for a person that will be a good enough friend not to hit on my husband. Someone that will leave the screaming at my child to me. Someone that is not overly needy, pushy or manipulative. I am looking for someone that is willing to come over just to talk even though I am running around cleaning and isnt expecting me to entertain you or wait on you hand and foot. I am looking for someone that when you invite me out to dinner that invite doesnt mean that I am invited to be paying for your dinner as well as mine. I am looking for someone that I can count on to understand that sometimes I just have a bad day and get stressed and me not wanting to hang out with you does not mean that I hate you or that I dont like you anymore or that I am mad at you. I am looking for someone that I can joke around with(within reason however people that joke about wouldn't it be funny if my daughter fell down the manhole and died would not be tolerated). I am looking for someone that if I tell you im sick and cannot babysit your kids you dont storm away childishly and delete me from your facebook and myspace only to come back when everyone else has abandoned you. I am a fun, well tempered, mostly sane person and im sure that if you fit these qualifications we will get along just fine!